Finding Happiness During Divorce
By · CommentsOur guest, Susan Pease Gadoua is the founder and Executive Director of the Transition Institute of Marin, specializing in meeting the needs of separating and divorcing men and women. We explore the importance of understanding your own needs, how to find your happiness, and the meaning of loving yourself. It’s an enlightening and engaging conversation, tune in to learn how to find the power of happiness.
Topics in this program include:
- The meaning of happiness
- What it means to love yourself, to be open to loving and healthy relationships
- Preparing yourself emotionally for a great relationship
- Why people get stuck in relationship traps – and being with the same personality type
- Avoiding the relationship trap mistakes and downfalls
- The risk of a rebound relationship
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If you are going through a divorce, chances are you’ve heard some negative thoughts running through your head. Am I good enough? Was this my Fault? Will I ever find another partner? Many going through a divorce experience these types of thoughts early on during the grief phase and this is quite normal and understandable. But If you can’t seem to move beyond these thoughts, it’s time to explore them and ask yourself are my feelings and interpretations of my situation really true? More times than not you’ll discover these thoughts are not your reality but rather the meaning you have attached to them.
In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Shelley Stile shows us how to sort fact from fiction and helps us to see the truth. By doing this, we empower ourselves to see the reality or our situation and can begin to let go of negative self talk. Divorce is an opportunity for personal growth and Shelley provides us with tips to feel better mentally and physically during this tough time and helps us to discover our true reality.
For more on Shelley Stile, visit: www.LifeAfterYourdivorce.com.
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Unenforceable Expectations during Divorce
By · CommentsIn this episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile, we explore Unenforceable Expectations as they relate to divorce and life in general.
Expectations or something we expect to go our way, can lead to resentment and disappointment. Our desire to expect everything to go our way can even be a form of self-sabotage.
As an example of Unenforceable Expectations, have you ever:
- Expected your ex to treat you with kindness and respect?
- Expected your ex to be fair regarding your financial settlement?
- Expected you ex to be a wonderful father or mother to your children?
- Expected the judge and mediator to see things your way?
So why do we expect so much from our ex, family and friends? Is this type of expectation a form of control?
Shelly Stile addresses these questions and explains how to accept the “Nature of Life”, you’ll have good days and bad. Your Self-imposed impossible expectations are a major source of your inability to let go of the pain of your divorce and move forward. This concept does not just apply to divorce recovery. It applies to all of life.
This program will help you to recognize and deal with any unenforceable expectations you may be having and get you on the path to a healthy mindset.
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Finding the Best Attorney for Your Divorce
By · CommentsIn this program we revisit the first step when considering a dovorce, selecting the propper attorney for your divorce.
Our guests include renowned Michigan Family Law Attorney and Divorce Source Radio Legal Correspondent, Henry Gornbein and from Toronto, Deborah Moskovitch, a professional Divorce Consultant and author or The Smart Divorce and host of The Smart Divorce Radio show.
Topics discussed will include:
- How to go about selecting the proper attorney?
- Should you hire the first attorney you visit or shop around for an attorney?
- What to expect in your initial consultation with a prospective attorney
- Questions to ask a potential attorney
- Watch for attorneys who bring you in with unreasonable expectations or perpetuate conflict
- We’ll discuss Mediation and Arbitration. Are they the less confrontational form or divorce?
- And much more
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Finding your Authentic Self, Happiness and Moving On
By · CommentsOur guest, Hanna McDonough, is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Psychotherapist (www.hannatherapy.com). Ms. McDonough shares her wisdom on finding the best in yourself, and delves into relationships and what’s important – is it sex, money? And, what are the differences between men and women and they way each values a relationship. We explore the gamut in topics and - learn about living your life as an exclamation, not an explanation.
Topics in this program include:
- The value of a therapist: how to find a good therapist, when to stay and when to go
- Understanding a verbally abusive relationship
- Exploring transformative therapy
- How to keep your marriage HOT
- Putting children first
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Stopping The Negative Mind Chatter
By · CommentsHave you ever listened to the Negative Mind Chatter that goes on in your head during the course of your divorce? Thoughts like “You aren’t good enough”, and fearful inner voices chattering “You’ll be alone for the rest of your life”.
Negative mind chatter can be rooted from our childhood. During extreme stress, such as going through a divorce, our emotions have the ability to resurface with feelings of insecurity or not being “good enough”, only now this negative self chatter is amplified.
In this episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile, Divorce Recovery/Life Coach Shelley Stile shows us ways to turn off the negative self talk and train ourselves to focus on building a positive fantastic future.
Contact Info for Shelley Stile: www.LifeAfterYourDivorce.com
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Surviving Divorce - “Best of DSR”
By · Comments“Surviving Divorce” featuring Dr. Larry Friedberg was originally broadcast on October 8, 2009 and explores the five stages of anger and grief as it relates to a divorce. The five stages of divorce are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression/Pain, Acceptance/Recovery.
It can be harder to get over a divorce than the death of a loved one. Learn ways to cope with your hurt, anger and pain and discover how to come out the other side of divorce a healthy and happy person.
This is a “Must Hear” program for anyone experiencing the emotional pain of divorce.
Dr. Larry Friedberg’s Website: www.drlarryfriedberg.com.
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Coping with the Personality Disordered Ex Spouse
By · CommentsOur guest, Emily Brown, is Director of Key Bridge Therapy & Mediation Center in Arlington, VA. (http://www.affairs-help.com/) works with couples, individuals, and families regarding the underlying issues in marriage, divorce, and betrayal. Battles over custody and related issues that are fueled by a personality disordered spouse can be the most frustrating of all wars. The judges regularly get conned by the personality disordered spouse who makes nice in front of the judge; the other spouse who is angry and upset appears to be the problem. Emily has worked with a number of these cases, trying to extricate the victimized spouse – and overcoming the frustration which many experience. Tough cases, but she likes the challenge.
Topics in this program include:
- Insight into personality disorder
- How to deal with a persistent blamer, and managing within the legal system
- How to help children when their parent is personality disordered
- Finding the help you need to cope
- The purpose of child custody evaluations with a personality disordered ex spouse.
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The Grieving Process During Divorce
By · CommentsPicking Up the Pieces and Moving On with Your Life
Divorce Coach, Shelley Stile discusses the grieving process during this episode.
The hardest part of a loss is learning to accept this new reality and operate within the new geography. Nonetheless, it can and must be done. Once we have achieved a sense of closure, we can move forward. In every ending there is a new beginning but first we must accept the ending.
The loss involved in a divorce is as painful as a death. In many ways it is a death of an entire way of life. But what we need to know is this: it is not so much what happens to us in life, rather it is how we handle what happens to us that is important.
In this program, Shelley coaches us through:
- The Stages of Grieving
- How to Overcome Your Divorce and Create a Bright Future
- Dealing with Anger and Negative Emotions
- The Signs of Depression after Divorce
- Positive Parenting for the Sake of the Kids
- And much more.
For more on Shelley Stile, visit her website at: www.LifeAfterYourDivorce.com
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Your Kids Come First - The Intelligent Divorce
By · CommentsThe Intelligent Divorce lays out a blueprint that can teach you how to handle your divorce with grace, strength and wisdom. Based on hundreds of case studies and a decades of experience, it is designed with the health of your children in mind.
Our guest is the author of The Intelligent Divorce, Dr Mark R. Banschick, a diplomat of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology with over 20 years of experience in child and adolescent psychiatry.
Topics Addressed Include:
- How to parent better during turbulent times
- What are your children feeling
- What are the signs to look for that your child isn’t handling the divorce well
- What type of behavior should you expect from your child
- How divorcing couples in conflict can come together to form a United Front for the sake of their children
- How to maintain open communication between you and your children
- and much more.
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