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Hurdles After an Affair Part 1 - Beyond Infidelity
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Either you or your partner had an affair and you’ve made the decision to stay together. Yes, you can stay together and settle for a relationship that is OK, or with the help of David Feder who is an expert in treating infidelity, you can survive infidelity, rebuild your relationship and thrive.
In this episode of BEYOND INFIDELITY David Feder begins a 2-part review of some of what he coins, the common “recovery hurdles” that can interfere with the process of rebuilding your relationship after an affair.
Tune in to learn about what you should avoid so that you and your spouse can rebuild and have an extraordinary relationship. It begins here.
For more information about David Feder, go to closeconnections.ca, or you can speak with him by calling 416-315-5107.
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Survive and Thrive after Infidelity
Posted by: | CommentsDavid Feder, a therapist specializing in helping people recovery from infidelity not only believes that the majority of people can save their marriage and keep their families intact, they can SURVIVE infidelity and THRIVE! David brings his expertise to DSR where in this podcast he speaks about his own 12 Pre-Requisites to Recovery that Participating Partners and Hurt Partners require in order to successfully recover. David believes that following the pre-requisites for a successful recovery increases the likelihood for a successful recovery and the possibility of having a relationship that thrives. Something we all want.
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Of course there are mistakes that people may make and David highlights his Five top Recovery Hurdles for us. Lemony Snicket, a writer, musician and novelist said, “What might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may be the first steps of a journey”. David suggests that “if you are currently suffering from infidelity, follow my 12 Pre-Requisites for Recovery and begin your journey. You may be pleasantly surprised. Infidelity can be an opportunity to jump start your relationship, it does not have to be an ending.” We hope you will tune in.
For more on David visit www.CloseConnections.ca.
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Beyond Infidelity Show Preview
Posted by: | CommentsIn this podcast David Feder introduces his new show, BEYOND INFIDELITY. You will remember David as Divorce Source Radio’s expert on infidelity and his previous very successful show, MY LIFE AFTER AN AFFAIR.
In this podcast David tells you that during the next year, BEYOND INFIDELITY is going to focus on what recovery is and what it looks like. As a listener you benefit because each podcast will provide you with guidance, direction and tips of what you can do at a grass routes level to manage the challenges that you have to manage each and every day.
Nobody will be left out on BEYOND INFIDELITY as David plans to address the more common issues that both groups face, regardless of whether you are the Hurt Partner, or the Participating Partner. In each podcast David and his expert guests will speak about a new set of issues and emotions and David in particular will cover what he has coined, “recovery hurdles”. There is no doubt that as a result of listening to David’s monthly podcast, you will feel better equipped to move forward in your recovery from infidelity.
With David’s blend of his road map to recovery, education and coaching you will recover. It is true that recovering from infidelity is hard work but David has a way that makes it both achievable and attainable, so please tune in.
David tells us that “you will recover from infidelity, the question is how”? Join him in his new show, BEYOND INFIDELITY, to find out.
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Personality Disorders and Affairs
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David Feder returns with another episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio to discuss personality disorders and affairs.
Many people suffer some form of personality disorder whether it be Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Disorder, Bipolar, or one of the many other types of mental illnesses that affect an individual’s ability to form healthy relationships.
Some of these illnesses can even be the direct cause of a partner straying and becoming unfaithful. David explains how mental illness might play out during an affair and provides advice for the hurt partner dealing with the fallout.
For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com. For more prograams related to divorce and life after divorce, visit:www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.
Rebuild Your Relationship After an Affair
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David Feder returns with Rebuild Your Relationship After an Affair and shares advice on getting over an affair.
David speaks to the need for full disclosure by the “affair partner” including the need for transparency in an effort to regain trust in the “hurt partner”.
For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com. For more prograams related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.
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Telling On The The Person Having an Affair
Posted by: | CommentsAffair expert David Feder answers a listener question regarding whether to call the spouse of the person your partner is having an affair with on this episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio.
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For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com
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Rebuilding Trust After an Affair
Posted by: | CommentsAffair expert, David Feder, discusses how to rebuild trust after an affair has occured on this episode of The Anatomy of an Affair on Divorce Source Radio.
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For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.
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Lessons Learned From Having an Affair
Posted by: | CommentsOn this episode of The Anatomy of An Affair with David Feder we are joined with a client who has had more than one affair, as well as several one night stands.
“Mary” has learned from her experiences and shares her story and we have the opportunity to learn from her experiences. Mary is an example of a person who has worked hard and faced her challenges.
Many people continue to buy into the belief, “once a cheater always a cheater” and this is a reason why many betrayed partners continue to ask themselves whether they will ever be able to trust their partner again? There are people who will remain untrustworthy but others are willing to learn from their mistakes and commit to living a more wholesome life and make amends for hurting their partner. People can change and this segment is about illustrating that point.
For more programs on divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com. For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.
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Should I End My Affair?
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David Feder returns with The Anatomy of An Affair and discusses the thought process of whether you should end an affair and return to your partner.
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On the next episode, David is bringing on one of his clients to share her affair experience.
For more information on David Feder, visit: http://www.mylifeafteranaffair.com
For more programs related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com. Send any questions or comments you might have to [email protected].
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Affairs - Your Heart Can’t be Two Places at The Same Time
Posted by: | CommentsIn episode 11 of The Anatomy of an Affair, David Feder discusses why your heart can’t be two places at the same time during an affair.
Comparing your partner to the affair partner is an unfair comparison that will either create more confusion for you or keep you stuck. You will not discover why you are where you are. Your heart cannot be in two places at the same time and your partner will almost always come up wanting in any comparison test. Instead it will be more helpful if instead of directing blame onto your spouse, you focus on yourself and become more aware of your beliefs, values and needs.
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The way a person feels when in an affair will almost always trump feelings had in a long-term relationship. An affair is a fantasy built on a foundation of secrecy, exclusive focus and excitement. Absent are the financial and childcare responsibilities that often distract committed partners from one another and robs the committed relationship of passion. Hence, the affair will often appear more exciting and leave participating partners thinking that they finally met someone who truly understands. But, do they?
For more information on David Feder, visit: http://www.mylifeafteranaffair.com
For more programs related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com. Send any questions or comments you might have to [email protected].
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