Archive for Sex after Divorce
Communicating Your Sexual Needs to a New Partner
Posted by: | CommentsIn this episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss the importance of communicating your sexual needs to a new partner.
Communication is an important part of every healthy relationship, both in and out of the bedroom. Juliana teaches us how to communicate our sexual desires openly with our new partner and shares ways to keep the romance alive for years to come.
Communicating your needs can be done verbally or non-verbally, the important part is that you and your partner understand what each other’s needs are. Common stressors such as money problems or work issues can be enemies of sexual desire and Juliana shares how to put your problems on hold, if but for a short while, so you can enjoy healthy sex and intimacy with your partner.
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Identifying Your Sexual Style
Posted by: | CommentsCouples often avoid sex because their sex life has become dissatisfying or conflictual. If talking about it is uncomfortable (and for most it is, at least a bit), avoidance can become the path of least resistance. Lack of time is often a convenient excuse. Talking about sexual concerns in a caring way and planning together for sexual revitalization can be the cure for avoidance.
Most couples can work through their sexual frustrations and miscommunications simply by learning to communicate about what is important to them and what works for them and what feels intolerable to them and why
In this episode of Sex after Divorce, Juliana Neiman provides a “statement check -list” to help us to recognize our sexual preferences. Once we have a better understanding of our sexual desires, the goal is to share our needs with our new partner in a healthy way.
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How to Communicate Your Sexual Needs to a New Partner
Posted by: | CommentsIn this episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss the importance of understanding your sexual needs and communicating them to your new partner.
Poor communication skills among couples is one of the main reasons many marriages fail. Although there are many important topics to communicate about in a relationship, discussing your sexual preferences early on in a new relationship can lead to a healthier and more intimate relationship.
Juliana Neiman has a wonderful way of helping us better understand our sexuality, and you may even want to listen to this program with your new partner. It is our hope that this program leads you to a better understanding of what each other’s sexual needs are, and ultimately to greater intimacy.
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Finding a Partner and Falling in Love Again after Divorce
Posted by: | CommentsIn this episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss finding a new partner and falling in love again.
We need to make sure we’re not selecting the wrong partner based on our unconscious past decisions. The way to do this is to recognize your psychological make-up by examining past relationships, making adjustments and moving forward to create healthier emotional and sexual relationships.
Juliana discusses the five important things when choosing a new partner including:
- Unconscious Motivations
- Being realistic in your expectations - Don’t expect your partner to be perfect, we all have flaws
- Understand our emotional needs
- Improving communication skills and conflict resolution
- Being aware of your need for love and worthiness
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Creating a Personal Retreat at Home for Self Discovery and Growth
Posted by: | CommentsIn the final episode of our ten-part series of Sex after Divorce - Reconnecting with Our Sexual Selves, Juliana Neiman talks about creating your own personal retreat at home as a means of self discovery and growth.
Not everyone can afford or needs to go away to a personal retreat to work through their issues after divorce. Juliana shows us how to get the most out of being alone at home and spending time reflecting on what has and hasn’t served us in past and offers insight into making healthy choices that will lead to fulfilling future relationships.
Topics in the program include:
- Learning the ten emotional and sexual basics in a relationship
- Defining what intimacy really is
- Discovering your realistic expectations for a new relationship
- Learning to deal with your daily stressors
- Dealing with anger and disappointment
- And much more.
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Are You GROWING or GOING Through Divorce?
Posted by: | CommentsIn episode #9 of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss ways of GROWING through the divorce process. This program helps us understand the importance of healing past wounds prior to moving on to new relationships prematurely.
If you still have feelings of hopelessness, anger, bitterness and regret, and find yourself thinking about your ex and thinking what could have or should have been done in the past, this is a Must Hear program.
Juliana helps us detach from our past and move forward to new relationships and possibilities. Divorce can be an opportunity to expand and re-brand yourself, and by doing the “personal work”, you can be mindful of things you may have done in the past that didn’t serve you or your relationship, make changes, and move forward into healthy, safe relationships.
It’s all about expanding, change and letting go. Juliana Neiman provides answers and suggestions for you to GROW through divorce into a happy, healthier you.
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Becoming Aware of Your Non-Negotiable Needs When Selecting a New Partner
Posted by: | CommentsIn episode #8 of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss the process of selecting a new partner and understanding your “non-negotiable” needs.
Through self analysis and looking back at past relationships, we can identify what we require in a partner that makes us feel safe, loved, protected and nurtured. Juliana provides a check-list of what to look for in a new partner and helps us understand how miscommunication with your ex may have occurred . Juliana provides tips for a healthier communications dialog as we move on to future relationships. Understanding and expressing our needs better helps build healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.
Juliana also continues the discussion of expanding our “sexual menu” with our partner to include Sex Toys,and trying different Sexual Positions.
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Expanding Your “Sexual Menu”
Posted by: | CommentsIn the seventh episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, our journey of the “sexual menu” continues as we discuss the taboo of anal sex and sexual fantasies.
Sex therapist Juliana Neiman provides a quick review of what we have learned since our first episode. The information and advice provided in this series will help you to learn from mistakes made in past relationships, with the goal of entering into a healthier relationship in the future.
After divorce, it’s quite normal for some individuals to lose their desire for a new sexual relationship, and you may even experience a fear of becoming sexually involved with someone new, due to your damaged sexual self esteem. Juliana helps you understand how to address these feelings and move forward.
The program then addresses the taboo topic of anal sex and the creation of sexual fantasies with your partner as a way of broadening your sexual menu. Juliana helps us remove the sexual roadblocks that may have negatively affected our sexual relationship with our ex and provides insight on how we might open our minds and communicate our needs in healthier ways for future relationships.
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Oral Sex and When to Say No - Sex After Divorce Part 6
Posted by: | CommentsIn this 6th episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we continue our exploration into our sexual selves.
Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman discusses:
- How and when to say no to sex as in how to tell your partner, not tonight
- How to say no to a sex act you don’t prefer
- When is the right time to begin having sex with a new partner?
This program touches on how to feel if your child in their teens or twenties has never experienced sex or a relationship with the opposite sex. Since so many “tweens” are in relationships and having intimate relations, should you be concerned that because your child hasn’t expressed an interest in going on dates that your child may be gay?
Finally, we discuss Oral Sex and break down the taboo and myths surrounding it. Juliana shares some helpful resources for those looking to expand their “sexual menu”.
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Masturbation - Sex after Divorce Part 5
Posted by: | CommentsIn Episode #5 of Sex after Divorce with sex therapist, Juliana Neiman, we discuss masturbation.
Masturbation is looked at as taboo by some and others were raised to believe that it’s wrong to pleasure yourself. In addition to feeling good, masturbation is a good way of relieving the sexual tension that can build up over time, especially for people without partners or whose partners are not willing or available for sex. Masturbation also is a safe sexual alternative for people who wish to avoid pregnancy and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases.
Medically, It relieves stress and keeps everything about your body—your heart rate, blood pressure, reproductive system, brain chemistry—in very good shape .A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Regularly flushing your system, so to speak, keeps your semen healthy and prevents the build up of cancer-causing chemicals.
So why all the hush hush? Juliana breaks down the myths associated with masturbation and helps us understand how to live a more fulfilling life in future relationships.
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