Archive for The Intelligent Divorce
What is Forgiveness?
Posted by: | CommentsIn this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D. on Divorce Source Radio, Dr. Banschick explores the definition of forgiveness and helps us better understand how we might get to this important point in our divorce process.
You’ll learn that forgiveness is not allowing your past to become your future. Dr. Banschick’s thoughts on this subject are both entertaining and powerful as he is passionate about helping couples work through the madness of their divorce for the sanity of their children and themselves.
A word of caution to listeners: Dr. Mark makes his singing debut at the beginning of this program. After the show, co-host Steve Peck told Dr. Banschick that after hearing him sing, he thought he should go to Hollywood… the walk would do him good. 😉
This is a must hear program for anyone going through divorce and coming to grips with forgiveness.
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Should I Get Divorced?
Posted by: | CommentsIt’s the question you might be asking yourself right now, should I get a divorce?, and it’s a question worth asking.
In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., Dr. Banschick helps us understand the process of evaluating these life changing questions and helps us take a look at our values.
Many divorced people have said if they would have known how hard divorce was going to be, that they would have reconsidered getting a divorce and worked harder on saving their marriage.
Other topics in the program include:
- The mortality rates of divorced individuals - Who’s dying sooner men or women?
- What role stress plays the break-up of marriage
- How divorce affects your kids
- How marriages become like a business,
- How marriage can drive a relationship farther apart
- And much more
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Collaborative Law - A Peaceful Divorce Alternative
Posted by: | CommentsIn this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., we look at a less confrontational form of divorce that is gaining in popularity, Collaborative Law.
Our guest is Attorney Rita Pollak, an expert in the field of collaborative law. Rita has helped designed training programs for other professionals with a desire to provide a peaceful alternative to the traditional divorce and mediation, and promotes www.CollaborativePractice.com for individuals looking for more information on Collaborative Law.
DIVORCE CAN BE MORE PEACEFUL. “Anyone entering the divorce process owes it to themselves and family to look into seeking a collaborative attorney”. - Steve Peck
In the program you’ll learn:
- The benefits of collaborative solutions for marriage dissolution, child custody and co-parenting issues, division of assets, and more.
- How Collaborative Divorce/Collaborative Practice offers guidance, information, and respectful problem solving.
- Understand how to better manage the effects of divorce on your children.
- Locate collaborative legal, financial, and emotional support resources for family and civil disputes.
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Washington’s Dysfunctional Marriage
Posted by: | CommentsIn this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick M.D. we discuss the similarities of a dysfunctional marriage and the dysfunction of our federal government.
Like opposing spouses in a bitter divorce, both parties claim the exclusive ability of knowing the “right thing to do.” After all, they “care” more about those in their charge. Each one also wants to get the better of the other, even if it means maligning or making ugly accusations – and, in the end, getting nowhere.
It is part of being human. But in a healthy relationship, whether a good marriage, a reasonable divorce or a functioning Congress, the conflict usually transforms into a collaborative effort rather than a combative one.
Though power struggles are inevitable, they don’t have to be destructive. Granted, it may be easier to be a single parent or to govern as a single party — but it is almost always better to have two points of view.
Like the children caught between two parents in this unpleasant divorce, the American public is left to wonder and to fear the results of this dysfunctional marriage. They see the posturing and feel anxious, but can do little.
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Are My Kids Okay? Signs to Look for During Divorce
Posted by: | CommentsThousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year. How they’ll react depends on their age, personality, and the particular circumstances of the separation and divorce process.
Every divorce will have an effect on the kids involved — and many times the initial reaction is one of shock, sadness, frustration, anger, or worry. But kids can also come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many become more flexible, tolerant young adults.
In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., we’ll discuss signs to look for that your child might be having a problem. Dr. Banschick breaks down each age group from very young children through their twenties.
If you’re divorcing with kids, this is a “must hear” program! For more info visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com
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Will Your Kids be Okay after Divorce?
Posted by: | CommentsThousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year. How they’ll react depends on their age, personality, and the particular circumstances of the separation and divorce process.
Every divorce will have an effect on the kids involved — and many times the initial reaction is one of shock, sadness, frustration, anger, or worry. But kids can also come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many become more flexible, tolerant young adults.
In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce Radio Program, Dr. Mark Banschick MD helps us recognize if your kid are in trouble and what to do to set it right. You will learn how to parent constructively with your ex spouse or how to raise a healthy child alone. You’ll be able to chart your kids progress and feel reassured that things are going to be okay. You don’t want your child to be a statistic.
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Telling Your Children about Divorce - The Intelligent Divorce
Posted by: | CommentsIn the first episode of The Intelligent Divorce radio program, Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D. discusses how to tell your children about divorce.
Truth is a great value, but it is not the only value by which we live. When it comes to kids, their health and well-being trumps everything else. We bring them into the world fresh and innocent. Your children were probably born into an intact family. This is what they know – a solid, caring team who loves them.
Much will change with a divorce. A child is no longer able to be with both of their parents at the same time, under the same roof. Their sense of security can be lessened and they must adapt to a new way of life.
Do you really want to tell them the truth? Should they know that their father had an affair and left their mother (and them)? Do you want them to know about their mother’s alcoholism? I’m not so sure.
There is a lot in life that’s private. Kids need to have their innocence. This means that they need not know everything – explicit details are better left unsaid. In my mind, their mental health trumps truth.
This opinion is not always embraced by parents, particularly a parent who feels wronged or defamed. That parent wants the child to carry the same opinion about the other parent that they carry. Here’s something to remember: your children are not you. They are entitled to their own opinions.
In this program learn the essential Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to breaking the news to your children.
For more in Dr. Banschick, visit: http://www.divorcesourceradio.com/dr-mark-banschick-the-intelligent-divorce/
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