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Are You Physically Abused? How to Leave Safely with a Security Professional
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Are you physically abused? Leaving an abusive relationship is hard. What may sound simple to an outsider is more complex to those on the inside. It’s not as simple as it sounds. The background of an individual – economic, cultural, education, age, sex or lifestyle – does not matter. Domestic violence, be it physical or emotional affects all walks of life. One in three female homicide victims are murdered by their current or former partner every year! This needs to stop!
Even if you’re not in an abusive situation, chances are you know someone who is. What can you do to help? What can you do if you are abused? Our guest, Tim Wenzel is a Protective Security Consultant based out of the San Francisco Bay area. Tim founded Wenzel Protection Group to provide security & consulting services to the US Government, Foreign Diplomats, Corporations, and Families.
Wenzel Protection Group believes in making the world a better place. Their passion project has been working with Victims of Domestic Violence. They are committed to providing education, consulting, and services that help these families live without fear.
We discuss:
- How to leave without a trace
- Working with a team – Lawyer, Therapist and Security Professional
- Working with Security Professional
- Working with your Security Professional After You’ve Left
- Safe Living Training
- Breaking the DV cycle and transition to a healthy new start
To contact Tim Wenzel email [email protected]
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How to Make Divorce and Separation Fair and Affordable
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Is it possible to go to court and make the process of divorce and separation fair and affordable, less acrimonious and actually helpful? Find out how with Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck as we discuss with our guest, Justice Rebecca Love Kourlis of IAALS, access to justice, and what it means for family court litigants. Judge Kourlis is the author of more than 200 opinions and dissents during her tenure as a judge, and also spearheaded significant reforms in the judicial system relating to juries, family law and attorney regulation. Her contribution to the justice system is significant and impressive.
IAALS, the Institute for the Advancement of the American Legal System, is busy working to make the process of separation and divorce more fair, dignified and affordable. And, most importantly, preserve families in the most positive way they can be during a difficult time.
IAALS’ Honoring Families Initiative has successfully developed an interdisciplinary model for reaching out-of-court resolutions in cases of separation and divorce. That model is now at work at the Resource Center for Separating and Divorcing Families at the University of Denver. They are at work tackling the challenges of the in-court divorce process, identifying the issues and compiling research on a number of fronts. That research will help IAALS along with some of the best minds in the country to suggest real solutions to improve the system.
We explore:
- What does access to justice mean for family court litigants
- What are some of the access to justice issues facing family court litigants today?
- Is cost a significant issue in family court cases?
- How are courts and individual judges dealing with these issues
- And much more!
If you are contemplating divorce, in the throes of divorce and not sure what to do, then you won’t want to miss the valuable information shared by Becky Kourlis. Empower yourself with information and knowledge so that you can divorce more holistically to avoid the pain and scars that can emerge!
- Learn more about IAALS and the Honoring Families Initiative at http://iaals.du.edu/
- Resource Center for Separating and Divorcing Families at the University of Denver
- IAALS web site
- IAALS Online (blog)
Questions, comments, suggestions:
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For more ideas on divorce reform and what you can do see Deborah’s article in the Huffington Post – Solving the Problem of Divorce, Have Your Say!
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Protect Your Children During Divorce
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January has been dubbed “divorce month” — and with good reason. It shows a higher number of divorce filings than any other month. Going through a divorce during the holidays can be emotionally draining, which is why many people don’t do it – they put it off until January. People don’t want to upset the status quo, rituals or routines over the holiday season; they want a peaceful Christmas, Hanukkah, festive season or happy New Year’s. They also don’t want their children to associate the holidays with their parents divorce – that certainly is putting their children’s best interest first. And then after soul searching and reflection during this time, many realize that they don’t want to spend another year with their spouse, as soon as the holidays are over they make this life changing decision, and file.
Rosalind Sedacca
Join Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck as we discuss with our guest, Rosalind Sedacca smarter ways to begin the divorce process, especially when you’ve got kids. Rosalind shares with us information about International Child-Centered Divorce Month, which is commemorated every January. This month divorcing and divorced parents can access free coaching, books, video programs and other gifts – all free – from divorce experts around the world. Deborah offers something special there too!
Tune in to find out how you can take advantage of this very special offer.
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Domestic Violence 101: What You Need to Know
Posted by: | CommentsDomestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse,battering, family violence, and intimate partner violence (IPV), is a pattern of behavior which involves the abuse by one partner against another in an intimate relationship such as marriage, cohabitation, dating or within the family. There doesn’t need to be physical scars –there is abuse that results in emotional scars too. There is sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.
No matter what culture, religion, color, income bracket, profession there is no typical profile of an abuser or an abused.
Our guest, Penny Krowitz, is the executive Director of Act To End Violence Against Women. She talks with Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck about domestic violence and what you can do to protect yourself and your loved ones. Over the years, Penny has played a leadership role in identifying the strategic issues facing Jewish women and their families and developing and implementing programs and projects to strengthen their lives. Developing culturally sensitive shelters for women in select cities in Canada. She has been the driving force for the newest Act To End Violence Against Women project to provide libraries in shelters across Canada for children and their moms.
You don’t need to be Jewish or Canadian to benefit from the important messages, lessons learned, tips and strategies that Penny shares. This is an important show, and offers valuable help.
We discuss:
- What constitutes violence against women?
- Women today are generally very educated and aware – how would they become victims of abuse?
- What are some of the myths and stereotypes about VAW?
- Why do women stay in abusive relationships?
- What are some of the causes of VAW?
- What are some of your organization’s programs to end violence against women?
- What is the vision of Violence Against Women?
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To contact Penny Krowitz or for more information about Act To End Violence Against Women call 1-866-333-5942 or email [email protected] or visit:http://www.acttoendvaw.org/
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Mourning Divorce and Developing New Rituals
Posted by: | CommentsYou don’t have to be Jewish to appreciate the advice our guest, Dr. Anne Brener, shares about mourning divorce, and developing new rituals and traditions.
Rabbi Brener, LCSW is Director of Spiritual Development at The Academy for Jewish Religion, California. She serves Congregation Makom Ohr Shalom as Rabbi and is a Bereavement Chaplain at Skirball Hospice. She is the author of Mourning & Mitzvah: Walking the Mourner’s Path (Jewish Lights, 1993 & 2001) as well as many other publications and assists institutions in creating caring communities. As a Psychotherapist and Spiritual Director, specializing in grief and healing, she works with people throughout North America.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce, Rabbi Brener shares her insights and wisdom on mourning the loss of marriage or significant relationship, finding ways to creatively move on, and the dance that you might learn.
Topics include:
- Grieving divorce and seeking closure
- Walking the mourner’s path
- Dealing with ambiguous losses
- How rituals make the intangible tangible
- Creative ways to obtain closure and moving on from divorce
- How Earth, Wind, Fire and Water can help you find inner peace
To contact Rabbi Brener, please email her at [email protected].
Rabbi Brener’s highly acclaimed book Mourning & Mitzvah: Walking the Mourner’s Path can be purchased through amazon.com at http://www.amazon.com/Mourning-Mitzvah-Journal-Walking-Mourners/dp/1580231136
Listen in to find out how to find closure, start anew, and develop fresh rituals for an enriching future.
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Women Embrace Shared Parenting
Posted by: | CommentsHave you heard about the new organization, Leading Women for Shared Parenting or LW4SP? This is a group of prominent women who recognize that absent issues of abuse, neglect or abandonment, government policy and laws must be structured in such a way as to maximize the opportunity of all parents to contribute to the social, emotional, intellectual, physical, moral and spiritual development of their children.
According to Pew Research on the Huffington Post, there is yet another data point to add to the changing portrait of American parents: the number of single fathers has risen ninefold since demographers began measuring it more than 50 years ago.
Barbara Kay
Back in 1960 there were fewer than 300,000 households headed by single dads, according to an analysis of Census Bureau data released by the Pew Research Center. By 2011 that had grown to more than 2.6 million. That’s more than twice the rate of growth of single mother-led households, which quadrupled in the same period, to 8.6 million from 1.9 million.
Our guest, one of the exceptional Leading Women, Barbara Kay, a prominent Canadian journalist, shares with us her perspective on shared parenting. “Without a presumption of equal shared parenting, the system will continue to fail children and non-custodial parents. Women are better placed to make this argument than men.”
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss many issues such as:
- What does LW4SP stand for, and what they want you to know
- The difference between shared parenting and joint custody
- What the current research shows about Equally Shared Parenting
- Considerations when developing your parenting plan
- Lots of great information about LW4SP
For more information and to find out more about Leading Women for Shared Parenting, visit http://lw4sp.org
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Real Solutions for Real Stepfamilies
Posted by: | CommentsOn this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, we discuss Real Solutions for Stepfamilies.
Mary Kelly
Did you know that the divorce rate for remarriages with children is at a whopping 62-70%? Did you know that most stepfamilies take years (four to six) before family members even begin to feel comfortable with one another, let alone love one another? Did you know that the research shows that only approximately 20% of adult stepchildren report positive feelings about their stepmothers, despite the years of effort and kindness so many of them have shown their stepchildren? As you may imagine, there are many conversations that couples need to have before combining their families.
Our guest, Mary Kelly provides us with a framework for considerations when having the important conversations when merging families. She provides the do’s and don’ts for making this new family more likely to work. Ms. Kelly is a therapist who has been working with and writing about stepcouples, stepfamilies, step kids, stepmoms and stepdads for over a decade. The number one declaration that stepcouples, and especially stepmothers tell her is: “We/I had no idea it would be this hard!”
Why is it so hard? In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss what many in remarriage or re-partnership with children find themselves saying:
- “Am I really supposed to love his/her children?”
- “What does being a step-parent mean?”
- “Do I really parent a child who isn’t mine?”
- “Just because I don’t have kids, doesn’t mean I don’t have a valid opinion.”
- ….and much more
And, then, based on these conversations provide solutions and strategies to maintain a healthy, loving relationship for the couple.
For more information and to contact Mary T. Kelly visit her website atwww.marriedwithbaggage.com or email: [email protected]
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Prenuptial Agreements: The Engagement Ring of the Twenty First Century
Posted by: | CommentsNow more than ever it’s time to consider a Prenuptial Agreement if you’re getting married, or a Cohabitation Agreement if you’re living together. The prenup seems so utterly unromantic — or just plain wrong — but it’s also become so right for so many these days: those keenly aware that a marriage may end up in a legal separation, divorce or death. Most prenups tackle financial issues such as real estate, division of bank accounts and potential spousal support in the case of divorce or separation. It’s not just for the rich and famous, but for anyone that wants to protect assets. Mapping out a pre-nuptial agreementis never particularly romantic. But it can be especially tricky when children from previous relationships are involved. It’s also a good time to explore your financial values and ideals with your partner so that you better understand each others expectations.
Attorney, Ed Winer
Our guest, lawyer Ed Winer, is one of the top ten divorce lawyers in the United States. Mr. Winer has practiced family law for four decades and is expert in drafting, negotiating and litigating antenuptial and postnuptial agreements, addressing business valuations, complex property divisions and other business-related issues.
Mr. Winer explains the importance of the prenup and cohab agreements, and outlines the significant financial questions couples should discuss – and individuals consider – before making a commitment. Mr. Winer refers to the prenup as the engagement ring of the twenty first century. Listen in to find out why…..we discuss:
- Why the prenup, cohab and postnup agreements are for everyone
- What these financial Agreements are
- Does it mean that you don’t trust your partner?
- What’s in it for the person that has less financially?
- Do these financial Agreements destroy or build a loving relationship?
- What about the matrimonial home?
- And much more……
For more information or to contact Ed Winer email [email protected]
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Overcoming the 5 Typical Divorce Issues
Posted by: | CommentsOur guest, Dr. Donald Gordon, is a Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Center for Divorce Education. The Center for Divorce Education is a non-profit organization dedicated to educating the public, and family justice professionals on the effects of divorce and parenting plans on the emotional and social development of children.
Dr. Gordon is a 40+ year clinical psychologist and researcher with an area of expertise targeting the reduction and prevention of juvenile delinquency. During his 40 years of working with families, Dr. Gordon has studied the effects that different strategies have on reducing conflict within a family (both with parents and children).
In this episode of The Smart Divorce, Dr. Gordon shares his insights and wisdom on developing a healthy, happy relationship with your children and co-parent. He explains how to communicate effectively, minimize stress, reduce conflict, and take your children out of the middle of the crossfire.
We explore the cost effective education programs for parent and children that minimize the harmful effects of divorce. Learn how the cost effective skills based online program by The Center for Divorce Education can help you. We also explore these five typical issues of divorce:
1. Money Problems
2. Children Carrying Messages between Parents
3. Long Distance Parenting
4. Quizzing Children about the Other Parent
5. Putting Down the Other Parent
Learn skills that will immediately change the way you interact
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Overcoming Your Ex is an Obstacle to Settlement
Posted by: | CommentsThere is a kaleidoscope of emotion experienced in divorce, and sometimes it makes good people do bad things, but can also bring out the worst in people especially those with mental wellness issues. What happens when you are faced with the adversity from the other side, crazy making behavior, deception, lies, and so on?
Steven Benmor
Our guest is Steven Benmor, a Family Law lawyer who only handles matrimonial cases. He takes us through the critical steps and thinking behind dealing with the difficult issues and personalities. Steven is a Certified Specialist in Family Law by the Law Society of Upper Canada, Adjunct Professor at Osgoode Hall Law School, Co-chair of the Board of Access For Parents and Children in Ontario, Executive Member of the Family Law Section of the Ontario Bar Association, Member of the Board of the Ontario Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, Member of the Board of the Ontario Network for the Prevention of Elder Abuse, Member of The Advocates Society, Member of the Toronto Lawyers Association and Member of the Family Lawyers Association. Steven is a recognized lawyer, educator, speaker and writer – and is well versed in dealing with many of the difficult divorce dilemmas that only the most seasoned of lawyers can handle so adeptly.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss personality disorder, the relationship breakdown business, and stepchildren support.
Topics include:
- Dealing with oppositional, paranoid and aggressive behavior from the other side –your soon to be former partner and their legal counsel
- Why you’re better off in the legal system
- Getting out of “emotional jail”
- Why it’s important to focus on the truth, not on the lie
- What the system is – an adversarial system, and not an inquisition system
- Legal responsibilities to the step children
- Overcoming your ex
- And much more!
For more information and to contact Steven Benmor visit his website at www.benmor.com or email [email protected]
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